Simplify Your Relationships - Choose Empathy

 Simplify Your Relationships - Choose Empathy

Empathy is a skill often talked about, but rarely used. The ability to put oneself in someone else's situation and comprehend their perspective is Empathy. Empathy has the capacity to alter the dynamics of our tense relationships. We all seek empathy from others, yet it is difficult for us to practice it, especially if we have had a negative interaction with the individual in the past. In such circumstances, we are more likely to try to provide the other person with the same experience that they gave us in the past.

 But to bring about change, this cycle of negative interactions must be broken somewhere. 

Relationships may be made better via empathy on both a personal and professional level. You won't regret it if you make a deliberate effort to pause before reacting and put away all of your previous experiences and sentiments. People commonly believe that by empathizing with someone, they are elevating the other person to a position of power, which is not the case. You do not cede your authority to the other person by empathetically responding to them.

In fact, taking a moment to reflect and change your response would make you feel content.

Sometimes we are so preoccupied with our own problems that we lose sight of those of others. No other issue is more pressing for us than our own. Perhaps we have a strong opinion about someone and believe that they are always wrong. We reject the idea that people evolve with age, experience, and time. Humans are adaptable and capable of change at any age. It has been proven that the person we are today has a lot to do with our primitive years, experiences, and circumstances which we had little influence over. We grew up organically adjusting to our surroundings. 

So, dismissing or undervaluing the individual you are interacting with is unfair. 

Remember that you do not entirely understand the other person, whether they be your spouse, kid, closest friend, or coworker. Everyone here is going through something. So be compassionate and understanding. 

Before you react or make a judgment, take a step back and look at the same circumstance from a different lens.

Your response and decision will almost definitely shift. And from there, a new outlook and more solid connections will emerge.

THINGS TO KNOW BEFORE YOU SUBMIT ACC APPLICATION

It's been on my mind for a while to explain the ACC application process because I had a lot of inquiries when I finished my certification. There are three alternative paths to apply for a credential: ACTP, ACSTH, and Portfolio path. Since you are so close to receiving your certification, I assume you are familiar with these routes. In my coaching experience thus far, I have interacted with people who are either on the ACTP or ACSTH track. The ACTP is an integrated program that handles all aspects of your credential process. This blog might be quite informative for coaches who are pursuing the ACSTH path and submitting their applications on their own.

This blog is divided into three sections-

· First, I'll go over the paperwork you must have with you when you submit your application.
· I'll describe how the application form works in the next part.
· And, in the final piece, I'll give you some tips based on my experience that will help you.

Part 1: The list of documents you should keep on hand

•    Your best session recording
•     Transcript of the same session
•     Your Coach Training Certificate
•     Mentor Certificate
•     Coaching hours log

I shall expand on points 1, 2, and 5 in the final paragraph of this blog.

Part 2: How the application form works

Before continuing with the application procedure, check that your payment options can handle international transactions since the application fee must be paid in US dollars.

 When you visit the ICF website, you have the option of joining ICF and applying for ACC or applying immediately without joining ICF.

There are a couple of tabs at the top of the application form that is marked with pens to show that they are unlocked and require information to be entered. 

These tabs will prompt you with the typical questions, including your coach training school, the name of your program, the start and finish dates of your program, the name of your mentor, and other information. A thumb will replace the pen mark after you've answered all the questions, signifying that you've completed the form in line with ICF criteria except for the Client Coaching Experience tab which will show a green check rather than a thumb. The Coaching Hours Log is not required to submit; however, there are several checkboxes on this page that correspond to your coaching practice thus far in terms of paid and pro bono hours. You must have an authentic record of the client coaching log on hand in case they conduct a random audit.

After submitting all the required paperwork, you will be prompted to make a payment. Applicants have the option of paying in full or breaking up the payment into either two or four monthly payments. The application will not be considered submitted and the review process will not begin until the application fee has been paid in full. Once the payment has been made, the application procedure is complete.

Once your submission has been completed, you will notice that the CKA tab is still locked. The CKA (Coach Knowledge Assessment) has been replaced with the ICF Credentialing test, which can only be accessed when your application has been approved. You will receive a message from ICF letting you know that they have received your application and are reviewing it. This process could take a few days. If your application is approved, you will be qualified to take the ICF Credentialing Exam. This is the final step in the credentialing process. You will have 60 days to schedule and finish the exam after receiving an email about it. Three (3) hours are provided to complete the exam. The exam will need to be completed in one sitting.

Native English speakers get 3 hours while non-natives get 4 hours to take this exam.

(Please check to see whether this still works the same way it did when I took the exam 6 months ago.)

ICF Credentialing Exam will have 81 scenario-based questions with multiple choice. To be prepared for the Credentialing Exam, you must be proficient in all 8 key competencies. After the test is over, you will immediately get the scores.

You might have two questions here:

i) What if my recording is rejected?

ii) What happens if I don't receive a passing CKA score?

Let’s go over them one by one:

i) If your application is denied, you can resubmit a fresh recording and transcript within 6 months of receiving your result letter. This method costs USD 150 for each recording.

ii) If you pass your exam, you will have your certification in a matter of days. If not, you may retake the exam. The retake fee is USD 105.

This is all about this section!

Part 3: Suggestions and Tips

1. If you are near to finishing your 100 hours, I recommend that you record and assess each practice session. Examine your selected sessions to ensure that the discussion is clear and audible and that only first names were used during the coaching session. Check that the recording is in the proper format. Both the audio file name and the transcript name must fit the standards.

2. You may get an audio transcript using either free software or professional help. I would recommend getting a professional to finish it. Inform them that you require this transcription for an ICF filing, and they will do everything else. Make sure to add timestamps in your transcript as well.

 (Contact information for transcript experts is provided at the end of the article.)

3. It is strongly advised to take the practice exam on the Coacharya website. It will simulate a real-time test. I received around ten questions in my CKA from the Coacharya mock test, which was quite beneficial.

4. To minimize unnecessary tension and the potential of making a mistake, I advise you to obtain the sample application form from the ICF website and carefully read it at least twice. Download your form carefully as the application forms for ACTP and ACSTH are different.

5. Keep all the documents readily available on your desktop. No alterations at the last minute are advised.

6. I firmly advise that you begin sending consent emails to your clients and fellow coaches as soon as possible. Keep in mind that you won't immediately receive 100% approval after sending your emails. It may be anything—some people might not check their mail for weeks, while people might deny permission. It shouldn't be the final thing you do.

To the best of my knowledge, I have covered nearly every important detail that one needs to know for the application procedure. And if you have any other questions, please leave them in the comments section; I would be happy to answer them all.

 I wish you well and hope your certification process goes smoothly.

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WHY HOUSEWIVES NEED COACHING

Homemakers are an important part of the community, and often need help navigating the challenges of life. That's where coaching comes in. This blog will explore why homemakers need coaching and how it can benefit them.

As a Life Coach, I dedicate my first blog to female homemakers. I chose this segment because I started my married life as one and know all the struggles that they go through, especially in a joint family.

In today's progressive society, many housewives are still struggling with an identity crisis. I found out that in many cases, becoming a housewife was not even their choice; it was imposed on them and they couldn't resist enough. After marriage, a housewife usually gets busy taking care of their family. This is what is expected of them, and it can be hard to find time for themselves. As a result, they often end up cribbing and complaining about their present state.

  There is a feeling of being trapped either by their early marriage, unsuitable partners, family members with conservative mindsets, or excessive workloads. Some blame their husband for not supporting them, and others blame their parents-in-law for putting them through what they endured in their early marriages. They just want to fly free, but instead, find themselves caged.

Despite working hard and making many sacrifices, women are often taken for granted and don't get the respect they deserve. When children or the man of the family achieves success, we often forget the contribution of the mother and wife who sacrificed their dreams to give them a comfortable environment. 

They deserve just as much credit for helping their loved ones succeed. 

There are examples where stay-at-home women can't even dress up wishfully or pursue their hobbies because other family members are not willing to adjust to a slight change in their routine. They are constantly reminded of how they are not good enough to do something beyond the four walls of their home. As a result, they too start to feel that they're not capable of anything more.

They feel exhausted and burdened by their obligations, which leaves them little time or energy to pursue their interests. In many cases, women even fall into depression due to the lack of appreciation and excessive expectations

The decision to become a homemaker should not be looked down upon; rather, it is brave and bold. 

Living in a family where one person is always expected to make all the adjustments and compromises can be difficult. Over time, everyone in the family gets used to this arrangement, and the woman often finds it more comfortable blaming others for her sufferings than standing up for herself.  Having been deprived of social support, a housewife declares herself a victim. 

                         Blaming others for your misery and failures is an easy way to escape, but it doesn't get you very far. Oftentimes, this is done by individuals who lack the courage and confidence to stand up for themselves. However, they don't realize that they are denying themselves a happier and more fulfilling life by doing so.

A homemaker is a family's strongest pillar of support. While it is imperative to serve our families, we also need to ensure we take care of ourselves. This is where coaching comes into play.

Like everyone else, homemakers can also improve their life situations with the help of a coach. A coach can help homemakers set realistic goals and develop a plan to achieve them. He or she can also provide moral support and encouragement when needed.

The myth is that one needs a coach if he or she is sick or suffers from a mental disorder, so they hesitate to reach out to one. Here's the deal: sickness is dealt with by therapists and mental disorders by doctors and psychiatrists. By contrast, coaching involves a healthy dialogue that leads to a specific and clearly defined outcome.

The majority of women I know invest a fortune in making themselves appear good to the outer world while inside they are crumbling. Now is the time to invest in the other side.

Changing your destiny is entirely up to you-no one else can do it for you.

 Put an end to victimizing yourself.

 Break down the barriers that stand between you and your dream life.

 Act now before it's too late